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  12 March 2006
Female Friends

Do female friends really exist? And I'm not talking about female "friends" or "friends with benefits" or "fuck buddies." I'm telling about a real live friendship relationship without any sexual activities involved. I have had a back and forth response to this question over the years. I went from yes to no back to yes. Now my opinion is yes with conditions and no unless... If this is confusing, good, I enjoy being confusing. The main problem with this concept is that when a man and a women get close enough through their friendship sex enters the equation. And when that happens you can toss the friendship out the window.

Before I explain my answer, I want to talk about how guys think. None of the female that they interact with on a social basis can be considered a friend, rather they are referred to as "women they haven't' fucked yet" (this is a technical phrase). You're probably thinking, "gosh why are men such pigs, all they want is to have sex with me." Well yes and no, there are some women we want to fuck more than others, depending on each individual persons preference. So we would "holler" at the ones we want to fuck sooner and others later or not at all.

Ok now with that said, lets talk about my answers to the question I posed, "Do female friends exist?" I gave two answers, first I'll explain the "no unless" answer. No there is not such a thing as a female friend unless the female is butt ugly and you wouldn't touch her if the survival of the human species depended on it. Then you would be friends with her because sex with her will never cross your mind. And you wouldn't be tempted if she tries anything because you find her repulsive sexually. So unless you are unattracted to a female she cannot be your friend.

Now I will explain the, "yes with conditions" answer. You can have a female friend under two conditions: mutual understanding and self control. Having a mutual understanding is very important because if you both know what the other expects a lot of issues can be avoided. With this understanding you MUST be honest. If you tell her that you want to be friends and she thinks you want to be friends but you really want to fuck, a problem will eventually occur. Self control is also very important. To explain I will present the following scenario: Lets say your up late one night in your home alone w/ your female friend. You guys are talking and a sexual pun is made. You both laugh and then an awkward silence follows. You can either a) ignore it and change the subject or b) use this window of opportunity to rip her clothes off and fuck the life out of her. This is where self control becomes important. If you really value your friendship, choosing option 'b' will kill it like a shot gun blast to the chest at close range. Option 'a' displays self control.

There are various way to look at the idea of female friends. Above are my views, what are yours?



  Posted by rey at 12:46 PM |


  2 Comment(s):
  1. From Anonymous Anonymous at 6:40 PM
    A female friend is definitely a possibllity...and it doesnt happen too much, but it does happen. I happen to be a female friend to a dude who is NOT gay,and does NOT have a girl. I know I am NOT butt ugly. So it's possible. It really is about self-control and honest communication. i mean: there was a time when our friendship was staring down the barrel of a gun...just about to be killed (about to turn into friendship with benefits) but those things CAN BE overcome. Unfortunately, that usually turns out to be a difficult and unrealistic task because of the mentality of most men, and because of a female's knowledge of this mentality that women and men are only just friends for so long, and then the dude wants to have sex. Basically, I agree with Rey...in "yes with conditions"
     
  2. From Anonymous Anonymous at 12:48 AM
    Okay so, what if you DO honestly wanna fuck?? As per your advice, you should be honest and let her know upfront to establish that mutual understanding of wants. But, you can't just come right out and say it and still expect there to be a friendship if she's not wit it and it doesn't happen. You have to establish that "friendship" first to even get to the point where she might consider sexin you. Unless you aren't at all concerned with the friendship and ALL you wanna do is fuck...then it's all good.

    But going back...what if she is one of the women you might like to fuck later rather than sooner? Meaning you wouldn't "holla" at her from gate, but as you two get closer...sexual feelings arise (as you explained in the first paragraph). In that case...you wouldn't be so inclined to "holla" at the beginning, which blows the whole "mutual understanding" thing because the situation changes.

    It's a catch-22...fucked if you do...fucked if you don't...or more accurately...NOT fucked if you do...NOT fucked if you don't. Unless you meet a freak...or someone that just wants to fuck you too...then it's on.

    Just my thoughts. You have some interesting and entertaining blogs...I think I'll stop by from time to time.
     



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