You're probably wondering what the hell is a seasonal?? Well... let me explain. I was having a conversation with one of my friends and I was explaining how the relationships I have do not last long enough to be called "relationships" so I needed call it something else, and seasonals were born. Now you're probably wondering, “Why seasonals? How does that make sense?”

Well... let me explain. Seasonals, as you may have already figured out, has the base word of season. When I think of seasons I think of something lasting three months or so, a couple of times a year and smooth transitioning. My relationships have been as such. They last about three months or so, a couple times a year, and smoothly transition from one to the next. Another reason why seasonals is so great is because there is no negative connotation to the word; in fact, it doesn’t even have a positive connotation either. It just is.

The seasons of the year comes and goes without any surprises or hard feelings. We all know that the summer is going to end eventually but we don't get sad about it, we just prepare for the fall. There are no hard feelings or anything. And I love summer, and I love summer love, but I know when September comes around I'll be in another state of mind (probably in another state as well). And that's not a problem for me or the season that I'm in.

Another thing about seasons... they overlap at times. You know, when its summer going in to fall, you have your fall clothes but you might want to wear your shorts a couple of times cause it might be hot out (you know ;-).

So that's what a seasonal is. Let me know if you have them too!!!

Through the past couple of months I have gone through somewhat of a transformation. I don't know exactly what happened but sometime during the semester I felt like things weren't right. I found myself reading a lot more about things that have nothing to do with what I'm in school for, but it made me think. This may have been the first time I really thought about anything in my life, where I'm going, and what I am I really doing. Doing independent research on a variety of topics, I have come to realize a lot of the assumptions that I have made about my life and society, in general, are completely false. Below is the list of ideas that I have come to believe.

I Am Not Free

All my life I have been told what to do, how to act, what to think, when to think, what to wear, how to talk, sit down, shut up, don't run, be quiet, do your homework, be a "good" child/student/citizen, and the list goes on and on. I never really questioned anything. When I did question something I accepted answers like, "that's just the way it is" and that was OK with me. So I did what was told. Among the many definitions of freedom one of them is "the power to determine action without restraint." If you think about it all of the actions presented to people are among a subset of predetermined options. So if one "chooses" any one of those subsets are they really making a choice? I say no. What do you think?

Education Is Not the Key to Success

Before I go into to this, let me describe what I mean by "Education" and "Success." When I speak of education, I am referring to formal education, government enforced schooling K-12 and college. I believe knowledge is more valuable than formal education. Some my argue that you gain knowledge through a formal education, but i beg to differ. Through education the only thing you know/learn is how to behave, how to be a good child/student/citizen. This education is beaten into people from childhood to adulthood, from the classroom to the corporate office.

When I speak of success, I am referring to achievement of true self reliance and independence. Most people measure success by materialistic things, cars, clothes and physical appearance. I must admit, I am guilty of this as well, but I am trying to break out of the mold that was force upon me. Forced to worship things as if it will make or break the man I have grown to become. I see success as realizing your true potential and moving forward towards self reliance and independence.

Education, as it is fed to us, does not lead towards independence, rather we become more and more dependant on "experts" telling us what to do. I came to this realization after I read this essay "Seven Lessons of a School Teacher" it's a good read. I believe being in search of knowledge and enlightenment is the key to success.

... to be continued....

I knew it! Now there is scientific evidence that proves that sex is good for you. Well, this evidence been around, I just never looked for it, and the other day it fell into my lap (literally). I read an article that states, "Having regular and enthusiastic sex ... confers a host of measurable physiological advantages, be you male or female." This means that frequently having sex is part of a healthy life style (that's if your not transmitting any diseases in the process). Here are some of the arguments of the article. These are 1000% real, I couldn't make this up.

- Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This in turn causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center.

- Better teeth: Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. Since this is a family Web site, we will omit discussion of the mineral delivery system. Suffice it to say that it could be a far richer, more complex and more satisfying experience than squeezing a tube of Crest--even Tartar Control Crest. Researchers have noted, parenthetically, that sexual etiquette usually demands the brushing of one's teeth before and/or after intimacy, which, by itself, would help promote better oral hygiene.

- Weight loss, overall fitness: Sex, if nothing else, is exercise. A vigorous bout burns some 200 calories--about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash. The pulse rate, in a person aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of an athlete putting forth maximum effort. British researchers have determined that the equivalent of six Big Macs can be worked off by having sex three times a week for a year. Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck and thorax. Sex also boosts production of testosterone, which leads to stronger bones and muscles. Men's Health magazine has gone so far as to call the bed the single greatest piece of exercise equipment ever invented.

- Less-frequent colds and flu: Wilkes University in Pennsylvania says individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

- Better bladder control: Heard of Kegel exercises? You do them, whether you know it or not, every time you stem your flow of urine. The same set of muscles is worked during sex.

- Pain-relief: Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.

The list goes on and on.... Yall need to check out this article... http://www.forbes.com/2003/10/08/cz_af_1008health.html

As I was driving home from school today this thought came into my mind. Why is prostitution illegal? I don't get it. If a person decides to sell their goodies, why not let them??? Their not hurting anybody, in fact they're helping someone get something out of their system. Prostitutes are like street nurses, they take care of you, then they send you home. Imagine if we took away all the prostitutes in the world. Do you know how much violence there would be?? If a nigga can't get none... can't even pay to get none... you know something bad is going to happen. Prostitutes are necessary!

Disclaimer: I'm not saying prostitutes are role models of any sort. I'm just saying if someone feels that the only thing that they can to get money is use what was given to them, why not let them?

What about porn??? Why isn't that illegal??? It's the same shit, people getting paid to have sex. The only difference is the work that porn stars do effects more than one person. They reach out to millions (maybe thousands).

The ONLY reason, that I could see, for prostitution being illegal is that you can't tax it. The government can't make money off of it. Imagine if a street nurse charged $50 + tax for some head. They probably wouldn't get much business. If they do, they have to carry change and all that. It just wouldn't work. And the government cant take an inventory of how many tricks they bagged, hence the reason it cant be tax. So, I think that once "they" realized you can't tax prostitutes, they made it illegal. Damn government!

What is your magic number? i.e. How many people have you had sex with? Is that public or private information? I would say that it is 100% private information. A question that really shouldn't be asked because 1) you don't REALLY want to know and 2) the answer you get will probably be a lie.

You do not want to know. For the ladies, if you ask a guy his magic number and it's too high, that might lead you to fall back. But on the other hand if it's real low, you might think he's a loser. For the fellas, you don't want to know because if it's too high, she's a hoe and if it's too low then she's lying. This is a lose/lose situation.

But if you still want to know, despite the reasons you shouldn't, there are methods of getting a number that you can be sure is close to the truth, if not the actual number. I will first start with how to get a man's magic number.

A Man's Magic Number:
Method 1 - Ask him. When you ask him he'll say X. Now take X and multiply it by 3, lets call that number N. His magic number is N + or - C. C is your confidence score, a number from 0-9. If you think N is too low then add C to N to get the magic number but if you think N is too high then subtract C from N to get the magic number. This may be confusing so let's do an example:

You ask him his number and he says 5. Take 5 and multiply it by 3, which is 15. If you think his real number is greater than 15 then you would add C. Now choose an estimate of C that would represent how much greater you think it is, lets say 5. So his magic number is 15 + 5 which is 20. Cool right? For all you mathematical people out there the equation is:
M = 3X +- C

Method 2 - Lets say you ask him and he doesn't give an answer. No problem. His magic number is his age + or - C. Once again, for anyone who cant keep up, I'll go through an example:

Lets say he's 25, his magic number is 25 + or - C. This time we'll choose C to be 7 and we think the guy doesn't look like he hit 25 chicks off so you subtract it from 25 to get 18. That's his magic number. This equation is:
M = A +- C

Now let's continue on to the ladies...

A Lady's Magic Number:
Method 1 - Ask her. She'll say X. Her real number is X + or - C. C is, once again, your confidence score for her but this time its a number between 1-3. I don't think I need to go through an example because guys are better at math than girls are... (just kidding;) The equation is:
M = X +- C

Method 2 - If she doesn't give an answer, take her age, A, and subtract it from 16 to get Y. Now take Y and multiply it by 3 to get N. Not take N and divide it by C, your confidence score. I'll go through an example because this one is a little tricky.

If a female is 20 then subtract that by 16 to get 4. Now take 4 and multiply it by 3 to get 12. Let's say you give a confidence score of 2 then her magic number is ~6. The equation for this is
M = (3*(A-16))/C

I know the equation for the ladies look more complicated and that is because females are more complicated.

I've tested my equations against 100% of the data not collected and each time I was within 1 or 2 of the actual number. I would say about 60% of the time, it works every time. I, personally, would not want to know but if you must my methods above are great ways to find out...

In the society we live in, it is ok for guys to cheat and have a lot (a lot) of sex partners, but if females do any of the things that guys do, they are instantly labeled as a hoe, slut, or whore by the society (which includes all of us). When I say things like this to females they give me the "no he didn't" look. But it's the truth, females are "wronger" then men when they cheat or have many sex partners (sorry ladies... wait... no I'm not).

If you think about it, it makes sense that guys are rewarded for their "accomplishments" because it is way way way harder for the average man to have multiple sex partners then it is for the average girl. Lets face it a female can have it anytime anywhere and if they take advantage of that then their hoes. Guys, on the other hand, have to work for it a little more, they have to spend a little more, and they have to lie a little more. It becomes a full time job. So why not reward the man for his "social" skills...?

(lol I crack myself up :-)

I hate when chicks say that they're looking for someone to be there for them all the time. Like, who wants someone there ALL THE TIME... Do you really want someone there for you while you're taking a number two in the bathroom? No. The fact is it is better to have someone who isn't there for you all the time because that gives you the opportunity to appreciate the time that they are there more.

So ladies and gentlemen what I'm trying to say here is to not be there for your girl/man or whoever you'er currently dating, you should be anywhere but there. You should only be there when it's absolutely necessary...

Your probably wondering now, "When is it absolutely necessary?" Well today is your lucky day because the absolutely necessary times are listed below.

When you hittin it
This may be a no brainer but it can get tricky. This instance when you should be there also includes the time your are there that leads up to you hitting it. For example lets say you're out on a date, you know... dinner... movie... sex, the only thing you may be thinking about is the sex portion of the night but if your not mentally there and interacting during the dinner and movie you may not get the sex at the end of the night. So you have to be there during the dinner and there during movie so that you can be there hitting it. Get it?


When you got caught cheating
Everyone slips up one time or another and gets caught cheating. If this happens you definitely have to be there for your girl or man because at this point they're mad as hell and either thinking about leaving or getting even. You have to be around to secure your spot with that person until you're out of the storm and everything clears up.

That's basically my two cents... 'til next time...