I hate when chicks say that they're looking for someone to be there for them all the time. Like, who wants someone there ALL THE TIME... Do you really want someone there for you while you're taking a number two in the bathroom? No. The fact is it is better to have someone who isn't there for you all the time because that gives you the opportunity to appreciate the time that they are there more.

So ladies and gentlemen what I'm trying to say here is to not be there for your girl/man or whoever you'er currently dating, you should be anywhere but there. You should only be there when it's absolutely necessary...

Your probably wondering now, "When is it absolutely necessary?" Well today is your lucky day because the absolutely necessary times are listed below.

When you hittin it
This may be a no brainer but it can get tricky. This instance when you should be there also includes the time your are there that leads up to you hitting it. For example lets say you're out on a date, you know... dinner... movie... sex, the only thing you may be thinking about is the sex portion of the night but if your not mentally there and interacting during the dinner and movie you may not get the sex at the end of the night. So you have to be there during the dinner and there during movie so that you can be there hitting it. Get it?


When you got caught cheating
Everyone slips up one time or another and gets caught cheating. If this happens you definitely have to be there for your girl or man because at this point they're mad as hell and either thinking about leaving or getting even. You have to be around to secure your spot with that person until you're out of the storm and everything clears up.

That's basically my two cents... 'til next time...

I'm convinced that everyone tries to be the different in a same ways and claim that they just want to be different. No matter how much people say it, they do not want to be different from everyone else. A perfect example is when girls use to wear those cheap Chinese slippers a couple of year ago bought for a dollar or two at beauty supply store. Once the word got out about those things, every chick in the hood had a pair. Then some chick got the same slipper in a different color. When her friends asked her why she get that mustard gold color her reply was "I wanted to be different." NO BITCH, that is not being different you still rocking the same bootleg ass slippers that everyone else got. Just because it's a different color doesn't make you any different from the crackhead who has it in black (maybe a little). If you really want to be different be the chick that would rock some f-ing high-top sneakers with knee tube socks in the summer. See how many friends you'll have left when you try to rock that shit to the club with them (not many).

No body really wants to be different, if they do feel like being different they end up being different in the same way as everyone else.

Men are agressive and think about sex a million times a day, women on the other hand are more reserved and don't think about it nearly as much (so i'm told). With that said, do men who like men just be fucking all the time?? Think about it, it's usually the female who say no, or nah, or not now, or i'm not ready, or some other bull shit. Dudes don't do that shit. Dudes be down for the cause all day every day no matter where or when. For the record I'm not on some gay shit I'm just saying, there's a possibility that dude that play on the same team might have a slight advantage over us straight men or not... I don't know... does anyone have an answer for this stupid question?

I have em, you have em, we all have em, the dreaded story about your Ex. Every time we begin a new relationship, there is a ritual that we all do in which we exchange stories about our past relationships. I think it is done in order to predict the outcome of the possible relationship to com and how to approach the relationship. This is where the fun begins.

The funny thing about the ex story is that you can plan to approach the relationship by avoiding the mistakes that the previous person made or reinforce the positives. If her Ex use to beat her ass on the daily basis you might want to avoid that, or if her Ex smoked crack for kicks, you might want to avoid that too. To reinforce the positive don't do exactly what the previous person did, you want to do what they did and add a little to it. If they did 'x' you want to do 'x+y' For example, if she use to give him head each time they had sex, you might want to give him head every day, just because. (he would love you)

Your probably wondering how much you should reveal when you tell your "Ex Story" since the other person might use it for their advantage. It really doesn't matter how much you say because they could use what ever you you tell them for their advantage, it all really depends on how comfortable you are with the person and what happened in the past. What ever you say just don't change your story... cause then it would sound like a lie.

The "Ex Story" is usually one of the first conversations you have with a new person. You could use it for your advantage and to plan out the course of action for your new relationship.