I've been denying it for a while now it is time for me to finally admit it. My name is Rey (Hi Rey) and I am addicted to online communities. I first was introduced to the beast at a young age. I was about 15 when my older cousin told me to take a hit. He said it was fun and I'll meet a lot of people. Little did I know that it would lead me to the roller coaster life of an online pimp.

I started out with Blackplanet.com. This was back in 2000, when a digital camera wasn't so easy to come by, so if you had a picture on your page, you was the shit, and I had a couple. Then I made a profile on AOL so I could be up in the chatroom basin' chicks like a/s/l ?? AOL and Blackplanet was cool for a while, then this Latin mami put me up on Magente.com. I quickly developed a fetish for the mami's. That lasted a short while then I was back on Blackplanet talking to a couple of new chicks like everyday.

I slowly began to realize that I had a problem. The moment of truth came when I went to go meet up with a chick from blackplanet. Now on the page she was looking right, like a 10 or better. But when I went to meet her I thought I had the wrong house. The girl I met looked like she swallowed the chick I saw in the picture. After that day a vowed never to touch Blackplanet or any other online community. People tried to get me on Hi5, Paxed, and Myspace. I was able to resist my temptations.

I was doing good for a while, until I was introduced to Facebook. I was hooked instantly. It was different then all the others. I was actually finding people I knew from everywhere. Facebook gave me a chance to "catch up" with girls from high school again. After a few months of that I was back like a never left. I visited my old friend blackplanet to was what was up. But after messing with Facebook, Blackplanet wasn't cool any more. So I did what I thought I would never do, I made a profile at... MySpace.com. I tried to get the monkey off my back but I couldn't help myself.

Right now I'm just taking it one day at a time.

There is no such thing as the right woman, just your best option. Sometimes the two might be one in the same but most of the time that is not the case. Many of you may be shocked and appalled by this statement but it is true. Most people go through this process of elimination with out even thinking about it. Most men gather a couple of females on their roster and decide which one they want to spend the most time with.

For example, if your dating a man and you only meet him at odd times during the day or night, like early afternoon or late at night, chances are your aren't at the top of his list. Alternatively if you are spending a lot of time with the guy with him you're probably close to or at the top of the list.

The right man or woman is a figment of our imagination, fairy tales that we are fed as children and believe as adults. No one in the world exists with all the qualities that we like or want in a person. Eventually, after endless searching, people get tired and settle for what they could get. Don't get it twisted, there's nothing wrong with settling. What happens to most people is that they get their hopes up so high that they can't bring themselves to settle with the best choice; they'd rather keep looking and get left alone.

If you can look at your partner and say they are everything you want in a man or woman you are either on drugs and delusional or lying through your teeth. Realizing early that you will end up with your best option will save yourself with a lot of disappointment later.

All men cheat, and that is a scientific fact! First off lets talk about the definition of cheating. I know what your thinking who am I to define the word but 4 out 5 professionals agree with my definition (the last one was busy cheating so he couldn't respond). Cheating - any act with a member of the opposite (or same) sex that a person would not do if their partner was around. If you think about it, that definition is very strict. But, of course, there are levels of cheating. See below my patented "cheat-o-meter." There are levels 1 to 5, blue to red. 1/blue being the lowest less offensive act and 5/red being the most offensive (you better leave that nigga) act of cheating.



The reason I am telling you all this because it is true. I pride my self in telling the truth as much as possible. Guys, you need to look your lady right in the eye and say, "Baby, I'm a man and I'm going to do man things. I cheated on you in the past and probably will cheat on you in the future. I just wanted to tell you because you're always telling me to tell the truth and not to keep any secrets between us." Lol no man in there right man would say this to any female that their dating. And no female would ever want to hear that from their man, which brings me to my real point. Females cannot handle the truth and honestly they do not want to hear it (and you thought this was going to be about men).

Most of you females probably looked at the title of this post and thought, "No not my man, he's good to me." or "I knew it, but to make sure Imma ask him to see what he says." Honestly you don't want to KNOW that he's cheating on you, you'd rather believe that he really is tired and wants to get off the phone early, or he's acting funny today because of school or work, or (my favorite) he's really going home this weekend to spend some time with his mom. You females want to believe these and many other lies because you can't handle the truth that all men cheat.

Even if you were presented with forensic evidence and finger prints by trained scientists, you would still want to hear his side of the story just so that he could convince you of what you want to believe, all those people are jealous of your relationship with him and wish they had something that you guys have (yea right). Of course there are limits to this rule. I would say that the longer the relationship has been the more bullshit the female will take before she decides to leave.

In closing, I would like to say that all men cheat and ladies do not want to hear the truth.